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Details [Aug. 1st, 2008|08:59 pm]
Darth Paradox
"Sick" was an understatement, it seems. I talked to my sister this evening, and she doesn't expect our mom to make it to next weekend, much less Labor Day.

Some details. Several years ago, Mom was diagnosed with a very early stage of esophageal cancer. They caught it early enough that they seemed able to cure it completely, and until a couple months ago everything was fine.

Then she started having breathing problems, which was diagnosed as a pleural effusion (fluid surrounding the lungs), which was ultimately determined to be caused by cancer in her lungs. She remained positive as she headed into her first chemo session last Tuesday.

Only it didn't happen, because she was diagnosed with pneumonia. Then further inspection revealed stomach cancer, and the pneumonia is likely caused by cancer (as opposed to just being a bacterial complication).

Tonight, they put her on a breathing tube. She can no longer swallow. The tube can only stay for five days at the most; when the tube has to come out, if they haven't fixed the pneumonia by then (which they'll only be able to do if it's bacterial), that will likely be the end.

So. Sora and I are flying out to Michigan tomorrow afternoon. We know Mom's got at least a couple days, so it doesn't quite have the same racing-time aspect of my last emergency flight out to Michigan for the death of a family member. But the outcome seems just as certain, barring frankly miraculous circumstances.

I don't know when we'll be back - probably a week and a half or so. Hard to tell. Needless to say, moving into the house this weekend has been cancelled. We'll figure out the plan later.

We don't know whether we'll be going to GenCon; we'll figure that out later too.

Anyway. Internet access will be intermittent at best; cell phone is the best way to reach me. A text message with a request to return a call would probably work best. If you need to reach me or Sora, you should either already have one or both of our numbers, or know who to ask. (Permission is granted to disseminate that information as you see fit. We trust you.)

Our flight leaves tomorrow at 12:35. Sora's mom is taking care of the cats while we're gone. Work's been squared away inasmuch as it can be for both of us; all that's left is the waiting for now.

This has been a fuck of a year.

From: dacut
2008-08-02 04:26 am (UTC)
My god. I'm so sorry. This is obviously shocking and all too sudden. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Let me know if you need help with anything back here. (360) 850-3616 is my cell number.
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[User Picture]From: absurdhero
2008-08-02 04:35 am (UTC)
I'm really sorry to hear it. Best of luck to you and yours.
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[User Picture]From: jadeejf
2008-08-02 04:37 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry :(
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[User Picture]From: kinkyprude
2008-08-02 04:37 am (UTC)
Oh, Jesus.
Anything I can do, let me know. Seriously, 2008 has just sucked so much ass.
Suggestion for New Years: We all get together somewhere in between (Portland and San Francisco)and then we'll make a giant bon fire somewhere, and just throw shit from the crappiest year on record, and watch it burn.
Seriously, dude. Anything I can do.
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[User Picture]From: kreeblah
2008-08-02 04:44 am (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: ladysevsnape
2008-08-02 04:55 am (UTC)
Oh god, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope she makes it thru and gets better. *huge hugs to you and Sora* I'll be thinking about you guys and your mom and sending get well vibes as much as I can *hugs again*
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[User Picture]From: iris_of_ether
2008-08-02 05:46 am (UTC)

I'm sorry to hear about this. Take whatever time you need, seriously.
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[User Picture]From: nervy_girl
2008-08-02 05:49 am (UTC)
*big hugs from both of us*
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[User Picture]From: partiallyclips
2008-08-02 06:09 am (UTC)
Best wishes, Chris. You've had far too much grief.
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[User Picture]From: jessicala
2008-08-02 06:30 am (UTC)
Chris, I'm so sorry. :(
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From: ex_miang438
2008-08-02 07:08 am (UTC)
Oh my God. You're so young to even have to think about losing a parent...I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

I know there's probably next to nothing I can do from out here besides hope for the best, but if you can think of anything, just say the word. Strength and safe travels, in the meantime.
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From: tcdohl
2008-08-02 07:17 am (UTC)
Human language is worthless right now for suitably expressing how shocked and saddened I am. I'm just so sorry.

Be well, please, both of you. All of you.
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From: yts88
2008-08-02 09:39 am (UTC)
If you need anything, feel free to ask. I think you have my phone number, if not its in phone tool. If you have anything outstanding at work, let me know, I will make sure it is handled.
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From: yts88
2008-08-02 09:40 am (UTC)
I will also fend off any diplomacy questions as best I can.
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[User Picture]From: inspectorzutto
2008-08-02 03:12 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear...
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[User Picture]From: fairygurlmel
2008-08-02 04:48 pm (UTC)


Again if you need anything message me I'm out in a2 so I can help if you need it.
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[User Picture]From: carn_carby
2008-08-03 12:17 am (UTC)
Gah, Darth!!! *hugs* I'm really sorry!!!
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[User Picture]From: fiercekitty
2008-08-03 12:21 am (UTC)
god, I'm so sorry for both of you :( my thoughts are with you.
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[User Picture]From: mcmartin
2008-08-03 09:19 am (UTC)
Augh. Sorry.

I fail at English here.
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[User Picture]From: iurbina
2008-08-04 01:07 am (UTC)
I think ENGLISH fails here. Condolences always seem hollow in situations like these.
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[User Picture]From: harlenna
2008-08-03 02:28 pm (UTC)
while phone calling would seem almost silly given how long its been since we've chatted on any format other than lj, i can say you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

all i can say, after going through two years straight of one death per year, is that it will get better. you will get to a year where someone you love won't be keeling over. where you won't have to go to a hospital room or face a funeral. there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. it's true.

my heart goes with you, sincerely. may there be strength for you and your family during this. strength and a release of grief. may love and peace follow you there and bring you home.

*big hugs* lis
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[User Picture]From: ryvaendell
2008-08-03 06:12 pm (UTC)
*hugs to all of you* I'll be thinking about you guys.
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[User Picture]From: chanilye
2008-08-04 06:09 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. My thoughts and well wishes are with you and your family.
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