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[Oct. 1st, 2008|10:32 am]
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Mom's gone.

Yesterday she went off the intubated ventilator (and on to a different one that used a mask), so that she could go home. We'd set up her house with a hospital bed and breathing machines and all the other necessary stuff, and last night she was happier than we'd seen her in a long time. She loved her house, and there was enough room for all of her family to gather without just crowding around the bed.

And then at 1:15 this morning, she just stopped breathing.

I've been trying to sort out my thoughts ever since I learned she was terminally ill, and it's mostly been anger at the injustice and arbitrariness of it.

But there's one thing I'm thankful for. My sister Alice called me on Monday and told me Mom was planning on going off the ventilator, and that the doctors didn't know how long she'd live. Sora and I booked flights that night, arrived yesterday morning, and got to spend several hours with Mom. I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't been here.

Anyway, I've got a lot of work to do. This is going to be an interesting week.

[User Picture]From: kendaer
2008-10-01 05:51 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
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[User Picture]From: aprivatefox
2008-10-01 05:58 pm (UTC)
If there's anything you need, just ask. Your friends are here for you, and I wish I could do more to help.
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From: dacut
2008-10-01 05:59 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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[User Picture]From: kaitou_marina
2008-10-01 05:59 pm (UTC)
I know that feeling of anger, I really do. You have my thoughts.
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[User Picture]From: petie_s
2008-10-01 05:59 pm (UTC)
Once again, I'm sorry. There isn't anything I can say, other than I've been there, recently, and I feel for you. You have loved ones, and that will be an immeasurable help. Take care.
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[User Picture]From: granulac
2008-10-01 06:36 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. Been there, totally understand what you're feeling.

Perhaps it's a small consolation right now that she passed peacefully in her home, but in time this fact will bring your family a lot of comfort. Best wishes to you.
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From: ext_119907
2008-10-01 06:41 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry, Chris. Love to you and Sora.
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[User Picture]From: cochese
2008-10-01 06:47 pm (UTC)
You have my condolences, man.
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[User Picture]From: eslington
2008-10-01 07:24 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about that.
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[User Picture]From: nervy_girl
2008-10-01 08:20 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I'm so sorry, hon. Lots of love to you and Sora, and to your family.
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[User Picture]From: xaandria
2008-10-01 09:11 pm (UTC)
Despite being a writer, I'm horrible at coming up with words at times like this. Please pardon me if I make some sort of faux pas.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I'm glad that she was able to be in a place of comfort surrounded by family in her last hours.

I'm glad you were able to make it in time.

Anger is a natural reaction, so let it flow so healing can begin.

I wish you and your family a healthy mourning and recovery aided by the fact that she sounded like a wonderful, courageous woman who loved you very much, and would want the lives of those who survived her to be filled with as much joy as possible.

If you or Sora ever need anything, let me know.
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[User Picture]From: voiceofkiki
2008-10-01 09:20 pm (UTC)

Been there too many times. You guys have my number if either of you needs me.

Love to you both.
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[User Picture]From: strand
2008-10-01 09:36 pm (UTC)
My condolences.
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[User Picture]From: inspectorzutto
2008-10-01 10:14 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry to hear. Though I am glad you were there with her a little while, and that she was able to see her house again.
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[User Picture]From: neoangelwink
2008-10-01 10:58 pm (UTC)
-__- hug
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[User Picture]From: kreeblah
2008-10-01 11:55 pm (UTC)
I honestly don't know what to say other than that I'm really sorry to hear this. :^(

I'm glad you got to see her beforehand, though. That's important.
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[User Picture]From: fenrig
2008-10-02 12:02 am (UTC)
My condolences. You're having a tough year, that's for sure. Take good care of yourself and Sora.
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[User Picture]From: harlenna
2008-10-02 01:02 am (UTC)
i'm really glad you got to be there.


you're in my thoughts and prayers
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[User Picture]From: jadeejf
2008-10-02 01:17 am (UTC)
I'm so glad you got to be there, but sad for you at the same time. I just know how much I wished I could have been around for the deaths in my family, and it was really tough not being able to. So sorry for your loss :(
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[User Picture]From: fiercekitty
2008-10-02 01:33 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry Chris.

I was so angry when my dad died, I wanted to scream and scream and scream until the whole world knew. I was furious at everyone else for going about their normal lives. As Jamie says, just let your feelings flow.

Please let me know if you guys need anything...Jimmy & I are thinking of you.
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[User Picture]From: chanilye
2008-10-02 02:15 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: ladysevsnape
2008-10-02 02:45 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry Chris. At least you got to say goodbye. *hugs to you and Sora*
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[User Picture]From: partiallyclips
2008-10-02 04:30 am (UTC)
Not a damn bit of it is fair. I feel for you.
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From: yts88
2008-10-02 07:03 am (UTC)
I'm very sorry to hear it, take your time, and if you need anything taken care of in Seattle, or at work, just let us know, we'd be happy to help in any way we can.
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[User Picture]From: ryvaendell
2008-10-02 07:04 am (UTC)
You have been and continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs to both of you*
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[User Picture]From: kwangawoo
2008-10-02 11:45 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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[User Picture]From: iris_of_ether
2008-10-02 02:00 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear of this, but glad that you made it back in time. Please be well.
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[User Picture]From: reskusic
2008-10-02 05:51 pm (UTC)
My condolences. This is truly awful.
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[User Picture]From: clearbluevinyl
2008-10-02 09:06 pm (UTC)
My deepest condolences. I am sending loving, supportive vibes from the west coast.
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From: tcdohl
2008-10-02 11:32 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry; please take care of yourself. If we can do anything for you and Sora, say it.
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[User Picture]From: carn_carby
2008-10-03 03:35 pm (UTC)
Ah, Chris...*hugs* I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: torfindra
2008-10-03 03:46 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry. I also lost someone, my godfather about two years ago. It is very hard to lose a loved one. I will keep you, Sora, and your families in my prayers.
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[User Picture]From: lil_ashy
2008-10-04 12:52 am (UTC)
I will try to send all the spare love and strength I have in your and Sora's direction.

As usual if you two need a change of scene or a break just let me know. There is always a sofa up for grabs in Vancouver for you.

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